Yes, that’s me last New Year’s Eve In Victoria, BC with Bigfoot. Yes, I am drinking champagne, thus my chumminess with the squatch. However that’s not what I want to attract your focus. Behold… the pink coat.
In the fall of 2014 I was invited to my neighborhood’s semi-annual CAbi party. In case you are unaware, CAbi stands for Carol Anderson by invitation, and it’s a home-based clothing business. It’s Tupperware for clothes, basically.
Each evening that I go to one of these parties (conveniently held next door every spring and fall) my husband cringes as I walk out the door.
“I’m just going for the wine!” I call out cheerfully.
Every time, though, I come home having placed an order.
This time, however, I was determined not to buy anything. I had recently purged many items in my closet and was going for a simpler life. And less laundry, theoretically.
Then I saw it. I got butterflies. It was beautiful. And it was pink. Cotton candy pink.
I never wear pink. Ever. I’m not a fluffy, girly person, and because of my body type, wearing pink always makes me feel a bit like a drag queen.
But this coat looked like Marilyn Monroe and Audrey Hepburn wrapped up into one stylish package.
I tried it on, and of course all the ladies at the party insisted this coat was ME, and I just HAD to buy it. I felt like a million bucks.
Alas, this coat was not cheap. True to my word, I went home without placing an order.
A couple weeks went by, and the CAbi rep emailed me to say that she was selling off her samples, and I could buy the coat for 50% off! Of course, 50% off of beau coup is still mucho dinero. (Yes, I am aware those are two different languages. Becoming more globally-minded is one of my New Year’s resolutions.)
My husband was out of town. Could I slip a Pepto Bismol pink coat into my clothing repertoire without him noticing? Not likely. But still… I had to have it.
I waited a month before the grand reveal. If I recall, his exact words were, “Whoa! That’s pink!”
There are only so many events for which a pink (with a capital P) wool coat seems an appropriate choice, so over the past year I have only worn it a handful of times. Every time gets a similar reaction to the first; Whoa. That’s pink.
Yesterday was a frosty morning and I was headed out to my hair appointment. Knowing I would feel fabulous following my sprucing up at the salon, I decided it was a good day for the pink coat.
My hair is the longest it’s been in a while, and my colorist is slowly evolving me into an auburn color. Right now it’s sort of a mahogany shade, and since I can take zero credit, I will admit it looks amazing. I get lots of compliments, and so every time I get a refresh, I walk with a bit more of a spring in my step.
As I walked to pick Parker up after school, I felt fancy. Classy, even. So many times I show up in yoga pants and a pony tail, so it’s nice to step it up once in a while. He took one look at me and said, “You’re wearing pink.”
“Yes. I’m wearing pink.”
“You never wear pink.”
“I know. ”
“I don’t think I’ve seen you wear pink in like 15 months.”
I have no idea where this random number has come from, and I know it to be inaccurate, but his point is made- I never wear pink. He’s not sure what to do with this sudden shift of color palate.
As we crossed the street, another mom that I don’t know said, “I really like your coat!”
“Thank you!” I beamed.
“You remind me of The Gilmore Girls. I don’t know if you watched that show or know what I’m talking about.”
“I know the show, but I didn’t ever watch it.”
“Oh. Well you remind me of that!”
I gave a little laugh as she crossed the other street, not really knowing to what she might be referring, but hoping it was a good thing.
That evening when my husband got home from work I said, “I got a compliment on my coat today.”
“A mom at the school came up to me and told me she liked my coat and I reminded her of Gilmore Girls.”
He laughed and said, “Which one?”
“Well the mom, I assume.”
He stared at me for a moment, and then chuckled again.
As we waited in line to order our dinner at the local pizza place, he looked at my coat and said, “You’re taking this awfully well.”
“Being told you look like a Gilmore Girl. I would think you were more like the one who dated all the men more than the mom.”
“Um. Are you referring to the GOLDEN GIRLS?!”
He began laughing really hard.
“She said GILMORE girls NOT GOLDEN girls!”
“I kept thinking, wow, she seems okay with this. I would think she’d be really offended.”
I pulled out my phone and googled the following photos:
“THIS is the Gilmore girls:”
He was really laughing at this point.
“I was so confused. You were like ‘I guess I’m like the mom’ and I was like, ‘really?!’ but you seemed to be rolling with it.”
Blanche (the one who dated a lot of men) did wear a lot of pink, as did Sophia, the mother.
“I wonder what pink coat in the Gilmore Girls she was talking about.” So I googled that as well, and sure enough, there were tons of photos like this:
Having never watched the show, I was unsure whether this was a running gag, or whether the pink coat was considered a staple piece. Further research revealed that the pink coat was the envy of many viewers, which took the sting out of the fact that my husband thought I looked like a geriatric character.
Here’s the thing;
We all have things we love but feel we “can’t get away with.” (Forgive the dangling preposition) Two piece bathing suits. Skinny jeans. Girly clothes. Statement jewelry. Long hair after a certain age. (I remember telling my friend Marques who cuts my hair that I wanted to grow it out until I was too old to wear it long. He replied, “You’re never to old to wear your hair whichever way you want.”)
I say, wear what we love. Buy into the fantasy for that moment. Do I look more like an Easter peep than Audrey Hepburn in my pink coat? Probably.
I like to imagine myself as “that kind of girl” sometimes. Not all the time, but sometimes. And so I shall continue to wear the pink coat on days when I want to be “that kind of girl.”